The evaporation of GEN Y problems at 27.
I just turned 27 late last week!!!!
If you are a unicorn, by 27 you have seen most of life. You have even attained your midlife crises already, even perhaps, somehow you have managed to earn some white hair. You know the hustle, you know the grind, you know more than you need to know, you probably have met bosses from hell. You could even define DRAMA, you have met the most dramatic people that made you wonder if they were acting or being real.
We are born in a competitive world where most people are really good at what they do. Typical scenario. We are born at a time where most of us are directors of our own companies, ahem self formed companies, so really we are the everything in the company, managing ourselves. We are also cooks, runners, self messengers of our sole proprietorship. Yet business cards are written director of......., and we have actually learned to treat ourselves like the managers we are. Because obviously the option of creating opportunities for ourselves has become more real than ever.
In other elements of our lives, We have had more team mafisi and team mavultures more than any generation. One can easily call us survivors, because the things that happen in this world are OUTRAGEOUS. Let me tell you how trickery has been given a new meaning in our time. Yo, dating can be an adventure, even more than travelling around the world and getting lost in the amazon forest. The dating scene has made soap operas seem very real to many uniconers. It is no wonder we are not watching them, because its like watching our life.
Friends we have seen life!! Me and my friends have crossed rivers and rough terrains at mlolongo. Infarct we were lost, it was raining, it was flooded, we had no sweaters, we could have easily drowned, all in the name of taking pictures at a query in mlolongo.----> ADVENTURE AT MLOLOLONGO. Msiba wa kujitakia hauna kilio. We really went through tough times there. Had we gone through this experience in primary, this would have been in our composition story with the title THE DAY I WILL NEVER FORGET. but yet again even this compared to real life is honestly a mere shadow. You don't joke!!!
The other day me and my girlfriends without conscious found ourselves deeply absorbed in words of wisdom conversations. lol, Joyce is silly, noting how suddenly it's like our life has suddenly become about men in our lives. How did we get reduced to this! Well hope not, I am of the opinion that our lives should also include bearing of it's own. But verily we have seen life as much as our grandparents would have in their times or even more. It could even be 100 times more. We are all involuntarily becoming counsellors.
You may think that I have ALL of life figured out by 27, we always thought we would ( okay maybe not, not one thinks like that anymore), but, I am still yet to figure out my eyebrows. Infarct so much so that I just decided not to do them at all. I think they look better with than without or looking like a Nike logo on my face. I have been around the world trying to find a solution but no, still persisting issues of them never working out. Around the world, I mean around Adams arcade zone. I feel that my eyebrows were meant to be left the way they are, no one should touch them unless they know what they are doing, so far there seems to be a ploy to make me look like a joke, and I will not let that happen. Not in my 27th year. And also I probably was not cut out for these things.
However, never has a year made me so happy. It does feel like a rebirth, and a total wholeness. Not because the world is perfect and I got everything in the universe, my dad assured me, that never happens, but because, I literally am in control. Lawd, I am for once in my life am not in messy and all over the place situations; changing careers every other minute or wailing due to self inflicted breakups, or solving a dramatic situations where two adults could solve without involving the universe. Yo, sema drama being so real! And it all eventually boiled down to choices. That's how I came up with the ridiculous list of 100 projects for 2014 which are working by the way, they are happening. I know it may be too soon to speak, but hey, I am not with failing ambition this year at all, so all those have got to happen!
Okay now, this is where I start sounding like I am fifty already because I have suddenly begun making all those adult jokes I used to hear people saying when I was growing up. Most are religious, like I always find myself saying things like, "Please don't take us back to Egypt" to mean-----> do not take us back to the past like Israelite were.. lol, then after such a statement, I ask myself, "what the hell am I saying" But all the same much as I have become all grown up on one hand, on another I feel like I am retrogressing.
Never in my life have I had the desire to wear short garments like now. You know those habits you suppress in your younger days and haunt you in your old age. Yeah, I feel like that. We always assumed that adulthood will come with it's magic that instantly changes you until you realize there is still an inner urge to do something really silly. Or struggling(struggling!!!! who says struggling anyway??) with things that should be so easy at my age. But for real I am still struggling to read inspirational books, can't get to that level of concentration. I still hate exams, I wish we could be tested orally, like in conversation form, I am still super and awfully awkward with intemacy, like I stretch a handshake to even uuuum, how do I put this without feeling funny,..... husband to be potential. I sometimes ask my self "what the hell was that Esther Neema, are you serious????" As in PDA can even kill me.
But yet again a lot has reformed in us, through experiences that have shaped us and moulded us. Without even knowing we have become women/men. We have become daughters/sons of our mothers vision. We have become men/women of our fathers pride. We have learned how to be afraid and move past our fears, not because it was easy, but because it was necessary. I think it is the realization that the things that weighed us down could be tackled with with a few facts we wished we had known before. But we have learned it is the experiences that teach us. They explain why.
Steve Jobs said
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart even when it leads you off the well worn path; and that will make all the difference.”
We probably now have the answer to the famous statement WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME!!! or even perhaps, yet to have it, but the answer will come eventually. I think for me I am FINALLY connecting some dots.Last two years sijui have been how. Now, It does feel divine. Shame, it probably is too early to give a full success speech yet, its coming shortly I hope. But one thing I know is I am better and greater challenging myself every minute in to finally being able to say---> And on my 27th year all my generation Y problems sorta evaporated. I respond to crisis better without involving the universe. I give to the world what I expect from it. Respect, beauty, love.
But how can I depart from this not before sharing the greatest facts embraced on my twenty seventh to make these gen Y issues disappear. Here they are!!!!
10 Facts of life that are more real at 27!!!!
"Its funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back, everything looks different"
If you are a unicorn, by 27 you have seen most of life. You have even attained your midlife crises already, even perhaps, somehow you have managed to earn some white hair. You know the hustle, you know the grind, you know more than you need to know, you probably have met bosses from hell. You could even define DRAMA, you have met the most dramatic people that made you wonder if they were acting or being real.
We are born in a competitive world where most people are really good at what they do. Typical scenario. We are born at a time where most of us are directors of our own companies, ahem self formed companies, so really we are the everything in the company, managing ourselves. We are also cooks, runners, self messengers of our sole proprietorship. Yet business cards are written director of......., and we have actually learned to treat ourselves like the managers we are. Because obviously the option of creating opportunities for ourselves has become more real than ever.
In other elements of our lives, We have had more team mafisi and team mavultures more than any generation. One can easily call us survivors, because the things that happen in this world are OUTRAGEOUS. Let me tell you how trickery has been given a new meaning in our time. Yo, dating can be an adventure, even more than travelling around the world and getting lost in the amazon forest. The dating scene has made soap operas seem very real to many uniconers. It is no wonder we are not watching them, because its like watching our life.
Friends we have seen life!! Me and my friends have crossed rivers and rough terrains at mlolongo. Infarct we were lost, it was raining, it was flooded, we had no sweaters, we could have easily drowned, all in the name of taking pictures at a query in mlolongo.----> ADVENTURE AT MLOLOLONGO. Msiba wa kujitakia hauna kilio. We really went through tough times there. Had we gone through this experience in primary, this would have been in our composition story with the title THE DAY I WILL NEVER FORGET. but yet again even this compared to real life is honestly a mere shadow. You don't joke!!!
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| Rough terrains of mlolongo river--> we were crossing that |
The other day me and my girlfriends without conscious found ourselves deeply absorbed in words of wisdom conversations. lol, Joyce is silly, noting how suddenly it's like our life has suddenly become about men in our lives. How did we get reduced to this! Well hope not, I am of the opinion that our lives should also include bearing of it's own. But verily we have seen life as much as our grandparents would have in their times or even more. It could even be 100 times more. We are all involuntarily becoming counsellors.
You may think that I have ALL of life figured out by 27, we always thought we would ( okay maybe not, not one thinks like that anymore), but, I am still yet to figure out my eyebrows. Infarct so much so that I just decided not to do them at all. I think they look better with than without or looking like a Nike logo on my face. I have been around the world trying to find a solution but no, still persisting issues of them never working out. Around the world, I mean around Adams arcade zone. I feel that my eyebrows were meant to be left the way they are, no one should touch them unless they know what they are doing, so far there seems to be a ploy to make me look like a joke, and I will not let that happen. Not in my 27th year. And also I probably was not cut out for these things.
However, never has a year made me so happy. It does feel like a rebirth, and a total wholeness. Not because the world is perfect and I got everything in the universe, my dad assured me, that never happens, but because, I literally am in control. Lawd, I am for once in my life am not in messy and all over the place situations; changing careers every other minute or wailing due to self inflicted breakups, or solving a dramatic situations where two adults could solve without involving the universe. Yo, sema drama being so real! And it all eventually boiled down to choices. That's how I came up with the ridiculous list of 100 projects for 2014 which are working by the way, they are happening. I know it may be too soon to speak, but hey, I am not with failing ambition this year at all, so all those have got to happen!
Okay now, this is where I start sounding like I am fifty already because I have suddenly begun making all those adult jokes I used to hear people saying when I was growing up. Most are religious, like I always find myself saying things like, "Please don't take us back to Egypt" to mean-----> do not take us back to the past like Israelite were.. lol, then after such a statement, I ask myself, "what the hell am I saying" But all the same much as I have become all grown up on one hand, on another I feel like I am retrogressing.
Never in my life have I had the desire to wear short garments like now. You know those habits you suppress in your younger days and haunt you in your old age. Yeah, I feel like that. We always assumed that adulthood will come with it's magic that instantly changes you until you realize there is still an inner urge to do something really silly. Or struggling(struggling!!!! who says struggling anyway??) with things that should be so easy at my age. But for real I am still struggling to read inspirational books, can't get to that level of concentration. I still hate exams, I wish we could be tested orally, like in conversation form, I am still super and awfully awkward with intemacy, like I stretch a handshake to even uuuum, how do I put this without feeling funny,..... husband to be potential. I sometimes ask my self "what the hell was that Esther Neema, are you serious????" As in PDA can even kill me.
But yet again a lot has reformed in us, through experiences that have shaped us and moulded us. Without even knowing we have become women/men. We have become daughters/sons of our mothers vision. We have become men/women of our fathers pride. We have learned how to be afraid and move past our fears, not because it was easy, but because it was necessary. I think it is the realization that the things that weighed us down could be tackled with with a few facts we wished we had known before. But we have learned it is the experiences that teach us. They explain why.
Steve Jobs said
“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something – your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. Because believing that the dots will connect down the road will give you the confidence to follow your heart even when it leads you off the well worn path; and that will make all the difference.”
We probably now have the answer to the famous statement WHY IS THIS HAPPENING TO ME!!! or even perhaps, yet to have it, but the answer will come eventually. I think for me I am FINALLY connecting some dots.Last two years sijui have been how. Now, It does feel divine. Shame, it probably is too early to give a full success speech yet, its coming shortly I hope. But one thing I know is I am better and greater challenging myself every minute in to finally being able to say---> And on my 27th year all my generation Y problems sorta evaporated. I respond to crisis better without involving the universe. I give to the world what I expect from it. Respect, beauty, love.
But how can I depart from this not before sharing the greatest facts embraced on my twenty seventh to make these gen Y issues disappear. Here they are!!!!
10 Facts of life that are more real at 27!!!!
- No time to wonder what people are thinking. I have mine own thoughts to coordinate in mine own head. Imagine having thoughts of billions of people in your head because of wondering what they are all thinking! I shall not carry the weight of the world on my shoulders.
- Happiness and Joy are choices!!!! I shall not choose otherwise. I think the most rewarding experience is realizing that our happiness does not come from the government or her relatives or even spices. It comes from within
- Friends, people have consider selling quail eggs! Life is tough, but we are even tougher. Hard work is real. It is not a roamer.
- Low esteem can go hung, Exaggerated esteem is a bad disease, we don't need that either, we just need enough of that esteem enough to be kind and enough to be courageous too.BALANCE!!! Don't worry about that though, life has a way of forcing this on you!!!!
- Let me tell you how the greatest discovery of how proverbs 31 woman doesn't exist was such a relief, that woman gave us pressure without even really being there. Sema waking up at 4.00 in the AM. But still finding a balance in life that make being a great woman rewarding even for you as opposed to a feeling of duty. realizing that the cooking food argument is not necessary because even the food you are cooking, you are actually going to eat it. Tutashinda hapo.
- Mum is still mummy, it never changes. She still will be behind you whatever age telling you about grooming even when you are more than a quarter century old. advising almost forcefully that you should wear lipstick. You are likely to end up with someone she has approved and a career she dreamed for you. You are your mothers daughter/son.
- And probably the most foolish thing in the universe is to believe in nothing at all. Many beliefs are wrong and untrue, but when you look out of the window and see the perfection of how everything exists, surely there must be a master mind behind all of this. Now that you must believe.
- You need to have an answer to the question, Describe yourself, believing it. Knowing who you are. Because everyone is trying to define you. You need to tell them when they are wrong, and tell them who you are. Or tell them when they are right. You just need to know who you are.
- Other people bad habits or even bad opinions will and shall not become my reality. Thanks Les brown for sharing this. I think this is so cool.
- You just need to find out from you potter how good your story ought to be. if you just realize alar your greatest contribution to the world is being myself and giving that myself and the world the best of me.
- Learning to know before needs and wants. Esther, you do not need cake, for example, you want cake. You do not want a vaccation to coastal beaches, you need it! You get what am saying.
"Its funny how day by day nothing changes, but when you look back, everything looks different"
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